We are always in some sort of transition; it is part of our humanity. We will always be learning, un-learning, reacting, or responding to some person or event. The question is, are we effective in how we communicate our feelings?
If allowed to tell our story, which one would we choose, and which one comes immediately to mind? Dealing with memories takes determination and a desire to have freedom from yesterday’s hurts and disappointments. Suppressing these negative feelings over a prolonged period can cause great damage to our health and our relationships.
And, what better time to begin noticing the effects of our communication than in the LOVE month of February?
Suppressed emotions can be likened to an erupting volcano. We have all seen the trails of smoldering lava that destroy everything in its path. And, like a dormant volcano, there is one more trigger that sets off the explosion, spewing out words of suppressed emotions, leaving trails of devastation over those we love and respect.
United States Army Survival Manual warns us that the more we struggle in quicksand, the faster we sink. If we relax, our bodies will float to a level of safety. And so, it will be when we let go of our pent-up emotions and practice mindful awareness.
Scripture reminds us that love is kind, does not anger easily, is patient, forgiving, and understanding. To heal and transform, follow the examples of nature. A caterpillar must form a cocoon of protection to transform into a beautiful butterfly, a seed first roots itself deeply in the soil to transform into a beautiful flower, and a snake must shed its old skin to grow and survive. And, so it is with human transformation.
Transformation is working and healing from the inside out to move forward and manifest our greatness.
When we use LOVE as a catalyst to change and transform, we prioritize our well-being, practice self-love and self-compassion, and rekindle and deepen our family and friendship bonds.
The following are combining our emotional mind and reason mind to be in our wise mind: First, recognize the multiple times we are triggered over the same people and situations, then recognize that our words have power. So, listen carefully to your inner mind chatter before erupting – your words have power; therefore, listen before you speak.
February is known as the LOVE month. A month of expressing our love through words, dinners, and gifts. It is a month of fewer judgments and more appreciation. February offers a universal message reminding us that our outside world reflects our inside world. Take note, the LOVE month has arrived. Decide now to heal the inner voice of disapproval and transform our reactions to responsiveness – the real language of LOVE. Josette Veltri, a Boca Pointe resident, is a certified educator and coach on loss and transition. Her purpose, to assist clients with healing and move forward so they can go from I Can’t to I Can, One Step at a Time. She can be reached at [email protected] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/josettejveltri/).
